A trip as a couple is the foot. But if a
getaway for two will leave you with unforgettable memories, you are not immune
to a few arguments. And for one in ten couples, this results in a separation.
This is how to limit the breakage and avoid the real marital crisis during the
holidays.
Be 100% fitting on the destination
First couple holidays. As your
relationship is fresh, you want to do everything for your boyfriend to spend
the holidays of his life with you (sub-text: without his friends). Result, just
the choice of the destination can be complicated. He wants to go walking in the
fjords of Iceland, you want to bubble in Sardinia? So you start looking for
common ground. But this "It's important that you like it" agreed as
an alms will only lead you to a bad compromise that can create frustrations or
even rancor. Rather than decide for the most consensual solution, take time (a
lot of time) to find an original spot that really makes you dream. The
lifestyle sections of magazines are full of atypical and sexy places to
discover.
Each his suitcase
When you go on holidays for two, it's
always tempting to make a common suitcase. Less cumbersome and less luggage to
record (we know that the airlines gorging on it). And then ... that's true
couple what. Except that, in fact, it's annoying. You risk getting bored of the
distribution of available space, not finding your stuff or causing a shampoo
accident. So plan a suitcase each. Thus, everyone manages the volume of his bag
(it will prevent you being accused of being responsible for the excess baggage)
and carries what makes him happy. And each one assumes the failures and the
omissions.
Talk about money
No it's not vulgar, even when you're in a
relationship for only a few months. An ill-defined budget, a bad distribution
of expenses, and your romantic getaway can turn sour. Especially if there is a
big difference in income between you. Take the time before the trip to set a
budget that suits you both (the goal is not that you brush the stroke every
time you ask for the bill). If your partner wants to travel more luxury than
you, be clear about the amount you can / want to put (after all, you may prefer
to save for an apartment that all bet on the Sofitel bedding). Never forget:
you are intimate and you are a team. If he really wants some expensive
activities, it is better to ask him to help you than to have to urgently call
your banker to transfer your PEL to your current account.
Do not let conflicts drag on
You only got 10 days of vacation with a
lot of RTT cumulated? You have no time to waste with endless arguments. The
longer a trip, the higher the risk of tension. And that's normal. On the other
hand, rather than stay several hours in cold weather (and when you only travel
two, they are very long, these hours), forget a little your self-esteem and
defuse the situation right away. A good way not to camp on one's position is to
put oneself in the other's shoes, to ask oneself "What could he have felt
in this situation?" This will help you realize that most disputes are the
result of a misunderstanding, not a problem of substance.
Ask the program
Do you agree on the purpose of the trip
before departure and what you want to do with your days (except spend time
under the blanket). If you go out with someone connected beach but you get
bored after a quarter of an hour, do not hobble your brains by getting sunburn,
you will pay anyway later. Do you know in advance that you will have trouble
agreeing? If you propose a hiking activity for the morning, compensate
immediately by suggesting something that will make him happy for the afternoon.
Do not present it as a sacrifice but as a desire to share your desires. And let
go of the ballast. You may not have time to dine at this five-star Trip Advisor
spot, but you'll forget the next day.
Give yourself time for yourself
If you go for a long time, for example for
a world tour in backpack, you will quickly walk on your feet. And with the lack
of comfort, fatigue, changes in permanent spots, it is important to give
yourself moments. Like going for a run alone or reading at the edge of the
water while the other is taking a nap. A priori, anyone is able to understand that,
and it is very likely that your sidekick has the same need as you to be a
little alone, without necessarily daring to ask
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